ALONENESS AND GODLINESS

We all need friends, friends forever, friends for life, ultimate friends and friends on whom we can always count upon. We all give importance to these relationships, we live for them, we die for them, we make them, we break them. In simple words, our lives revolve around them.
Yes, friends are important, these relationships are important. People write a lot about them, give them different names, give their opinions etc. I will not say anything about them, because according to me there exists a much more important relationship, i.e. the relationship with yourself. This is one relationship which lasts the longest, from birth to death, and it is maybe the most determining relationship in one’s life. You are the only person who remains with you for all time. You are the one who is aware of everything going on with you, you are the one aware of your thoughts, you are the one aware of your strengths and you are the one aware of your weaknesses and faults.
When you go out for a walk alone, when you are alone in your room, when you are with nobody, in simple words when you are alone, you are true to yourself. You are honest. That is the time when you can actually take things at the face value, as they are, as they should be taken. When you are with friends you do tend to share out things in a little unreal way. There is a certain amount of cooking that comes up while sharing. Even if you were very very true, then also the person might perceive things in a different way. I am not in an opinion of not sharing things out, I am not in an opinion of not making friends, but I am in opinion of first facing the things alone, and then turning for help. It is our general tendency to look for help, to seek help, to demand help. This is not wrong, but maybe not the best. When you actually look things in a very true way, when you actually see them in an absolutely straight way, then you can actually accept and come up with a simple solution. This can be done by looking things as they are, you always know what has happened, you can mostly tell that this is the right thing, you can mostly say where the things went wrong, but for this you have to be alone. A state in which there is nobody, but you. A state where you don’t miss somebody, a state of less thoughts, a state of aloneness and loneliness.

Yes, true, friends are important, but not more than you yourself. We loose ourselves to them, become dependent on them, get addicted to them, just go to them for all things in life, and there is where the attachment starts. Love is good, but attachment is not. Care is good, but expectation is not. And it comes when you start to count too much on others, when you think only about some particular people in your life. There is where lies the cause of sadness and doom.

Friends are very important when you things are not in your hands, but if you see the things truly, many of the things could have been solved simply. Yes, friends are important for sharing out things, friends are important as they give you very nice company, but still, you can share most truly with yourself, you can accompany yourself the most.
I find God in aloneness. It is a state of less conflict, less thoughts, less emotions and more work. You are more loving when you are alone, because love comes when you are at peace, care comes when peace overflows from you. When you are together, you are more restless, you are more conflicted. You get attached. And there is pain there is attachment.
Everyone of us wants to be with someone, with some group or get associated with something. Yes, you need these things, but what we do is that we always forget the most important relationship in life when we come in touch with these things. You can be your best friend, your best companion. You can always wipe your tears, you can always be with you, you can always make yourself smile, you can support yourself and you can find out a solution for the problem. Perhaps these are the traits which we look in our friends, but you have them all yourself. Again friends are necessary, but sometimes because of these relationships, we overlook the purest and the simplest relationship, relationship with ourselves, or in my words an honest relationship.